MAD, BAD and DANGEROUS TO KNOW
- By The Difficult Parent
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- 24 Oct, 2022
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Divide and conquer is the order of the day as yet another person is bad mouthed by having their mental health questioned, I am so out-raged I have to speak out
DIVIDE AND CONQUER
So and so said such and such about me!
When I first got involved in parent carer campaigning I was frequently told a particular parent carer representative was mad, completely mad, bonkers. This came from the officers of the CCG and the SEND services. Divide and conquer.
Moving forward, an officer said that a good friend of mine at the time was also 'mad'. They in turn were then told that I needed to 'be more professional'. I dismissed the bad-mouthing, they believed it. I dropped them. Divide and conquer.
Moving forward again, a Councillor told me that a certain good friend of my family was 'dangerous'. They in turn were then told that I needed to 'calm down'. Divide and conquer.
Trying to get Changing Places into parks, an Officer of the local authority told me there was a certain prominent campaigner I should 'avoid', they too were 'bad' AND 'mad'. Divide and conquer.
Next, I was labeled as responsible for the failure of co-production in Haringey by a now leader of the local parent carer forum. Another leader of the forum wasted no time in telling other parent carers that I was a racist. In the shortest amount of time they had adopted the behaviours of those that had formally wanted to challenge. Divide and conquer.
There has been plenty of cruel and unfounded comments about those of us who are skeptical or have concerns about Low Traffic Neighbourhoods (LTNs) on social media, some by people in the highest of leadership positions who really should know better. Divide and conquer.
I was then recently contacted, again, by another person in distress that they were being bad mouthed and accused of being mad. Divide and conquer.
When I first got involved in parent carer campaigning I was frequently told a particular parent carer representative was mad, completely mad, bonkers. This came from the officers of the CCG and the SEND services. Divide and conquer.
Moving forward, an officer said that a good friend of mine at the time was also 'mad'. They in turn were then told that I needed to 'be more professional'. I dismissed the bad-mouthing, they believed it. I dropped them. Divide and conquer.
Moving forward again, a Councillor told me that a certain good friend of my family was 'dangerous'. They in turn were then told that I needed to 'calm down'. Divide and conquer.
Trying to get Changing Places into parks, an Officer of the local authority told me there was a certain prominent campaigner I should 'avoid', they too were 'bad' AND 'mad'. Divide and conquer.
Next, I was labeled as responsible for the failure of co-production in Haringey by a now leader of the local parent carer forum. Another leader of the forum wasted no time in telling other parent carers that I was a racist. In the shortest amount of time they had adopted the behaviours of those that had formally wanted to challenge. Divide and conquer.
There has been plenty of cruel and unfounded comments about those of us who are skeptical or have concerns about Low Traffic Neighbourhoods (LTNs) on social media, some by people in the highest of leadership positions who really should know better. Divide and conquer.
I was then recently contacted, again, by another person in distress that they were being bad mouthed and accused of being mad. Divide and conquer.
THIS BEHAVIOUR NEEDS TO STOP.
It is incumbent upon all of us that when another person who challenges the policies of Haringey Council is described as 'mad' 'bad' or 'dangerous to know' we MUST challenge it and simply say that is not an appropriate thing to say about anyone, because the officers and Councillors of Haringey Council are not in a position to diagnose mental health issues or otherwise in the people who challenge them.
If you have not been in this 'game' a long time, you might mistakenly believe that bad mouthing - that yo really are mad or bad or dangerous.
Utter rubbish. Complete and utter rubbish.
But the behaviour needs to stop, starting with those at the very top setting a much better example.
If you have not been in this 'game' a long time, you might mistakenly believe that bad mouthing - that yo really are mad or bad or dangerous.
Utter rubbish. Complete and utter rubbish.
But the behaviour needs to stop, starting with those at the very top setting a much better example.
Mental health right now
One in four adults and one in 10 children experience mental illness, and many more of us know and care for people who do.
https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/
This blog is not intended to degenerate mental health, not mental health issues.
If you need help
https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/
This blog is not intended to degenerate mental health, not mental health issues.
If you need help
- Speak to your GP
- Self refer to 'IAPT' talking therapy: http://www.lets-talk-iapt.nhs.uk/make-a-referral/
- Help from MIND in Haringey: https://www.mindinharingey.org.uk/our-services/counselling/
If you thought SEND was bad - the NHS is seemingly prepared to throw away money to private companies
About 3 or 4 times a year we get the euphemistic message 'Parents please note we have put a letter in your child's bag' - its a world away from how a child's death was handled in my child's first school
More of a trial by ordeal than a well organised clearly set out administrative process for moving the care of vulnerable young adults from Haringey's Children's Services to Adult Services. We have been failed at every stage of the process.
Never EVER get on the bus without a camera running if you need the priority wheelchair space
The reality of using a London Bus in the teeming rain on a Sunday afternoon is no joke when the parents of a paraplegic person in a wheelchair clash with the self-entitled buggy-pushing parents of toddlers.
At 3pm today I received some barefaced lies from Haringey Council Adult Social Care in response to a photograph I published online yesterday and the media interest it generated
Haringey SEND Transport are insisting that a 17 year old minibus with no air conditioning is a suitable vehicle to transport my paraplegic son in this heatwave. The appalling conditions inside the minibus inside the bus is something they knew about last summer, yet they have to date done nothing whatsoever provide a suitable minibus this year nor appropriately mitigate the temperatures inside the minibus.The conditions inside the minibus are so bad that they triggered multiple seizures during the heatwave as my son has epilepsy, which they SEND transport department know about and they also know that they are triggered by heat.It is not just son who is impacted: last year we know of one child who died on Haringey SEND Transport in the summer heatwave and another who had seizures.
I am simply asking a question - are we all absolutely certain that the road closure / travel restrictions (commonly know as LTNs) placed on some of the most severely disabled people who are wholly reliant on cars are absolutely necessary
Haringey's road closures exemptions policy for disabled people is not fit for purpose, unduly burdensome and intrusive - it's time to stand up against the pro-LTN lycra-clad cycling bullies
Is the argument for and against exemptions for disabled people in Low Traffic Neighbourhoods really a case of GOOD versus EVIL?
